I'm a Caregiver for an elderly man (I'm 55, he's 92!). It's not bad enough that I'm working in deplorable conditions, but ontop of that I'm being sexually harassed by this man, the man I am employed by, the man I take care of. I seemed to have gotten this position just in the knick of time, beginning to fall behind in my own rent. And so, when I was offered this job I felt it was sent from heaven above. I could get into the details of the house but it disgusts me to even talk about it. Anyway, I clean it to the best of my ability and daily while there, but truthfully... for all that needs to be cleaned, it still makes me sick as soon as I walk in there in the morning, As a couple months went by I just learned to "deal," and because I "really" need this job, in time I also learned to "accept" these conditions and tried to get over it, simply because I had to! And, I'm embarrassed to say that I did... accept it, that is. But then Another problem arose. This 92 yr OLD man "comes onto me, and 'sexually' harasses me!!!" I told him the first time that he was making me 'uncomfortable,' and he stopped for 'approx.' 2 months. And it took me almost that long to be able to finally relax and get comfortable again. And now, just this week, he started up all over again with his disgusting verbal comments (and it IS disgusting!). There's SO much I can say and tell you here that would even make YOU feel nauseated by, but I'll leave it to your imagination! It's 'Not' that I 'Can't' handle him, 'if I wanted to.' But I don't want to handle it, nor should I have to!! But my Question to You is... "do You feel that 'because he's 92' that he should be "let Off the hook, that I should dismiss it, and that I should be the responsible and professional caregiver, 'despite' him and despite his behavior?" The First time he verbally came out with what he did, I felt that I needed to let his daughter know. She just told me, "well, just tell him NO!" (I also think that 'she' believes that 'I' should be the one to take care of the situation. And 'this is why' I didn't tell her what's going on AGAIN now. I take care of this man, give him showers, and all that's entailed by a caregiver. I'm very dedicated and have always brought my heart to my jobs. There will come a day when he will become bed-ridden and my job will only get more entailed, more physical with him, and much more hands on. He's Not getting it! He's too old to even realize that how he's making me feel is called "sexual harassment on the job!" Would anyone of you stand for this? I really would like to know if I'M the one who is Wrong, if I as a professional caregiver 'should Know how to deal with it, and should be able to,' take it? I told him the 1ST time that he was making me feel very awkward and if that's how he
wants me to feel while there. He replied, "No!" And that's when he STOPPED for that 'almost' 2 month period and stayed on good behavior. But.. All to Start up all over again now! Today as he was coming out of the bathroom he came 'behind me' and started to rub my lower back- to my butt! I said, "would you please stop?" He said, "I like touching you like that!" (And, that's Only One of the things that he says to me!) I know I'm going to have to leave this job, but before I do, I guess I just needed to be validated- just in case 'I'm the one' that's wrong here...that it's 'my job' to take this, especially because of His Age!! What do you think? Thanks for your feedback. It's appreciated.