My mother has been having issue with her health since 2006 (Age 62) and only within the last 3 to 4 years has she been more dependent on me. Though recently she has been more stubborn and moody then I ever seen her. She recently had issues sleeping and was up for around 30+ hours and I did what I could to get her to sleep. Finally it seemed the exhaustion with some sleep medicine she has from her doctor finally kicked in.
After sleeping for 12 hours I went down and she if she needed anything, but she was on an emotional roller-coaster, from breaking down and crying to getting angry and frustrated when I tried talking to her. I got my dad involved since I wasn't having any luck getting through to her. Checking on her today, she seems like all she wants to do is rant on and on and when I try to speak she cuts me off.
If I do manage to get a word in she get angry, but I'm not doing anything that would warrant this anger. Every since the last 48 hours with the lack of sleep the person who I'm speaking to doesn't seem like the same person from a week ago. Sure she was frustrated, but not to the point of blowing up over every little thing. I'm really worried about her mental health and asked her about maybe being checked.
She said over and over again she was fine, but knowing how she normally acts this isn't her usual self. I'm not sure if this is just depression with the lack of sleep talking in her place or something more serious. I have messaged her doctor(still waiting on a reply), but I feel like I just walked into a losing battle. Before all this it seemed like there some hope, but now she's just refusing to listen reason.
I told her I need a break for a bit, a few days to recharge and I was going to have my dad take over for a bit. This did not go over well and she basically panic and got angry. Telling me she's fine and all she needs to do is calm down. I told her, "That's not the point, I'm burnt out and just need to get some decent rest at night without being interrupted 3-4 time through the night (Wireless call button).
So her current behavior is depression, frustration, quick to snap at people, and not listening to people. Also her hand is shaking, but that could be from nerves of being depressed and stress, lack of sleep or something else. It just seem so sudden to go from nice and caring(if a bit demanding at times) to someone who doesn't know if they want people near them or push them away.
I really like her to go in and be checked, but if she refuses there's really not much I can do. So any advice from people who may have dealt with a difficult mother would be great. I'm just a wits end and really can't do this anymore. Also I'm not sure if my dad can fully take over the responsibilities since she can't stand too well and can't walk. She needs to be wheeled to the bathroom in a transport chair and my dad can barely move her, let alone lift.
I really think at this point she needs assisted living and have a third party help out with some of these problems. Though I did bring this up to her and lets just say she's not fond of that idea.