We moved to be with my mother as she aged and are living in her home. In order to get us to come here she made a promise to turn title of the home over to me, but then changed her mind. (I wanted to be sure we had some protection from this kind of thing) As she ages, she is getting increasingly more paranoid and delusional and is now threatening us with eviction. If it was just me and my husband it would be tough, but we have an 11 year old in school who is just adjusting to being here and does not want to leave as well as 2 older children who moved with us and are just starting their own lives. This is not an area we would choose to live in, nor is it economically viable for us to stay on our own.
I hesitate to share because I know it sounds like whining - we really did come here with love and good intentions - not just to freeload, which is her feeling.
She is hostile to any mediation and does not believe she has any culpability in the situation. I am concerned about her increasingly poor decision making and unrealistic view on the situation but also have to protect my family's interests.
My sister had the same experience but she had the foresight not to sell her home and thus had a place to return. Do we have any rights?
She has not been diagnosed with bpd and would not be amenable to seeking either diagnosis or treatment. I will be seeking therapy for myself and my son, but what happens if we go? She has macular degeneration and glaucoma so won't be able to drive much longer. How do I balance my family's needs with hers?