My mum has just being diagnosed with "vascular dementia" ive known for 6mths it could be this but to hear it has started to sink in.
I was planning to move away from here as i hate this town im currently living with mum and caring for her on my own siblings abroad and brother nearby no help?
I spoke to my doc today and she said moving your mum from her house to go live in a different place now would be the start of her decline and not a good idea?
Im now finding myself overwhelmed with responsibility now as its up to me whether my mum stays here in her own home or goes into NH. I cant look after her alone its too much and its going to get worse.
Her doc said shes not ready for a NH yet? she still has good memory but will need care?
If she dosnt go into a NH we cant make her until she cant cope at all this is a huge responsibility on me as I just cant have a life here and dont want to live here.
I just dont know what to do now and with my family abroad what can I do? Feel so guilty that my mums future care is all down to how much I can handle.
Cant stop crying and starting to get very down i have a huge choice to make my mum staying in her own home or my sanity?
Has anyone had to make this choice? Its not fair that it all falls on me as im here?