Our caregiver, "Sue" (name is changed), was pretty good at first. She cleaned up after my father in-law, helped clean the house and anything else we needed help with, but now she is on a downward spiral. She is now only feeding him a chocolate cookie, fried pork rinds and, if he is lucky, a can of Vienna sausages for lunch/supper. She is also getting romantically involved with my husband's brother, who is supposedly in charge of my father in-law, but we can't find the papers that say so. Other things she has done that my husband and I don't agree with are: arriving late, leaving early, asking about our personal financial business several times a day, and when we tried to fire her the first time, she called the brother who then came home and proceeded to psychically harm my husband; the police were of no help at this point either.
Sue has over stepped her boundaries in a major way as far as my husband and I are concerned. She has, for lack of a better phrase, wrapped my husband's brother around her finger enough that he has asked her to marry him. This is a pretty big deal seeing as he isn't the type to rush into something like marriage especially since he just got out of one. I'm fearful for my father in-law because Sue doesn't pay attention to him like she should and since she has the brother wrapped around her finger, he also isn't thinking about what is right for Joe.
A little information on my father in-law:
He has dementia, Parkinson to the point where grabbing a small glass is nearly impossible, has had 2 strokes, is bed ridden, has broken a hip, and he can barely talk. He has moments where he can talk clearly, but it is only yes or no.
We are wondering if we can get any advice on what to do to get rid of Sue.