I'm living with my 92 year-old mom, who has dementia, and I decided to move the the South, from NY, because I think I'll be able to afford some help down there. I'm an only child, no husband or siblings, or other family. My dad passed away four years ago, so Mom and I just have each other. She'll be moving with me, of course, but I have to go down there to look for a home ahead of time, and I don't want to take her. We don't have the funds to leave her in a respite home for a week, and/or to hire an aide to come in everyday. If I do find someone to come in, she won't answer the phone or the door, so I don't know how I can be in touch with her, if I leave her alone. She leaves sliding doors unlocked, as well as the front door. I'm a wreck worrying she'll leave the doors open when she goes to bed, which she has done, or open the door for the "wrong" person, while she's alone. If I make the doors inoperable, for safety, how would she get out, if there's a fire or something? I don't want to take her with me, for the hassle and cost it would bring, because she does nothing at all, and I can't take care of her, and find a new place to live, at the same time. What are my options, if any? Thanks, in advance, for your feedback.
Area of Aging and Disabilities in your city have tons of resources for low income families. They will come out and qualify you by income level of your mom. They can offer many services that she might qualify her for. It's worth a try. I hope this helps. Good luck and God Bless.