I have been a caregiver for only a few months now for my Mother (brain, lung, breast cancer). I am on my own as the rest of my family (sibling, aunt/cousin) do not offer much help. My biggest frustration is not knowing if I am missing important signs while taking care of my Mom. For example, tonight she is more confused than normal and I believe she has a fever. She says she is 'fine', but then complains that it's hot in the house (though the temperature has not changed from the time she told me it was 'ice cold'). She won't let me take her temperature, so now I will be worried all night about her condition. Twice before when she has been disoriented or less responsive than normal I've had to take her to the emergency room for what turned out to be pneumonia.
My question for other solo caregivers is this: How do you know you're doing the right thing - especially when there's no one around (no other family) to consult? I wish I had the second opinion of a spouse (I'm not married) or sibling (who's raising her two small children and not present) to make sure I'm making the right decisions. My Mom is very stubborn, so if I tell her that I want to bring in a home care nurse, she'll flat out refuse. All thoughts and ideas welcomed. Thanks.