I come from a dysfunctional family. My father was a mean, violent alcoholic and my mother the typical co dependent. I am 37 and have am still working through issues (PTSD) from my childhood. My father died 2 weeks ago and I've been forced to move my mother 800 miles to live with me because they have gambled EVERYTHING away. They had a nice home on a golf course with money in the bank, life insurance and pensions and retirements. They withdrew it and spent it It's all gone. I had many talks with them about what they were doing and was always told to mind my own business. When my father died two weeks ago they were living on my fathers social security disability which was not much (and they were still gambling and borrowing money from cash advance places). Their apartment was disgusting (I'm talking feces and bugs) and they were both not taking care of themselves and just waiting to die. My mother at the present time has NO income, she has an appt for survivors benefits which isn't enough for her to live on her own. She is only 61, so she is too young to retire and has been turned down for disability. She is young, but acts like she is 90 and has being ditsy down pat. She cannot take care of herself. I had to get her out of the bath tub her first day here because her legs are too weak. She's had multiple strokes and has trouble walking and has diabetes, but refuses to eat right. I feel bad for her because I know that she is grieving (my parents were married 43 years), but on the other hand I am so mad because I have to deal with this. I have my own family and that keeps me busy, I don't have the time or energy to deal with someone that doesn't want to do anything to help herself. I've had a couple severe anxiety attacks this week because I am so overwelmed. Our relationship had been strained over the years and I have a brother that lived nearby them and just watched them do this to themselves and then passed my mom off to me. I never got a phone from any of them call unless they needed something or someone was in the hospital. Now I don't have a second to myself....my mom is clingy. She wants to go everywhere with my.... I literally can't go to the bathroom without her looking for me. She won't eat unless I make her meals and get her something to drink. I don't know what I'm going to do. I am really trying to take care of her and not blow up, but I just can't do this. Maybe I'm selfish or just a truly bad person...but this is going to put me over the edge. Thanks to everyone who took the time to read it. I'd love to know how everyone else deals with this.