What to do with somebody that seems to sulk when he feels not cared for enough? Lots of family dynamics here. I am the only child of an 87 year old blind, deaf, father. He also has swollen prostate and is diabetic. He is bedridden. I work 40 hours a week, and have an only child, my 31 year old son, that stays overnight with his grandfather. My semi-retired partner is the primary caregiver and liason with the VA that sends a person to bathe him M-F, bi-monthly catheter changes, adjustments in prescriptions, and more. Is it common to feel manipulated? More often than not, my father "cooperates" with my partner, and seems to almost deliberately make life difficult for his kin. He can be very astute, and profound in his communication, for instance, I was with him one night, and he was shouting from midnight to three a.m. I told him I needed to be at work at eight, and he asked me why I wasn't asleep. I said because you aren't, and he said, "So shut up, already!" When my partner tries to calm him, my dad says, "If you want me to go to sleep, I will."