I see quite a few discussions where there is some thought that it's the caregiver that gets the brunt of the bad moods of the person they're caring for. In some cases, the person being cared for tells awful stories about the caregiver.
This morning, my mom was a bit snippy to me. Minutes later, as I brought her some hot tea, she looked so sad, looked up at me and said, 'You're the one that does the most for me and I'm the worst to you." She just looked so unhappy that I knew she was feeling quite bad about being snippy to me.
But I'm curious why this is? Is it because the caregiver and the person they're caring for are spending so much time together that it grates on the sick person's nerves and they lash out? Is it because the caregiver is the symbol of the sick person's long gone independence?
While I am actually pretty understanding about this -- I mean that I don't feel persecuted when she does this as I know it's just part of the disease -- but I'm just curious why this is.