Ive been caregiver for my wife for more or less 21 years. The past 5 yrs she has steadily gotten worse and now I'm afraid I can add dementia. We had in-home care up to 2 years ago when 1 of the helpers started coming fewer days. She was doing lite house keeping and help in bathing, she also just spent time just being a companian. She came 3 days a week and someone else came 1 day. She stated she was taking classes 2 days and I approached her and said what's up, you're not taking classes, why aren't you coming 2 days? She responded she has become a downer for me and I can't do it any more. We have 2 daughters within 4 miles in either direction that started filtering phone calls and basically stopped coming to see her and haven't been much help phyically or supportedly. My eldest daughter has doa and poa. For the past 2 years I've been pretty much 24/7 caregiver and with her slowly losing her memory she making all kinds of acusations now from trying to poison her to trying to steal her money and now even abusing her. I failed to mention she fired the help and has been bed-ridden for most of 5 yrs. With he resent accusations I've had a person come to the home from the adult human services and they want to test her. She admitted it was my daughter who purpatrated the claim. I'm looking for advice now because I have a cloud hanging over my head. I know this is a problem with caregivers and the testing will more or less show just how far shes advanced. I can still take care of her at home I'm hoping but it will require more in-home care. I'm just wondering if for my own well-being if its worth it now. Any ideas will be appreciated.