My husband and I never really had a chance to be alone in our new home, new city/state and new marriage. In the beginning he graciously accepted my family members. He and my sister still get along great but his relationship with my mom has deteriorated. She has some signs of dementia, has become paranoid and accusatory. Although she was a good mom to me growing up, she is also somewhat controlling. I was an obedient child and I guess it's spilled over into my adulthood. My husband feels my mother is very ungrateful and thinks she takes advantage of me. I cannot totally disagree, however I'm her youngest child and we were always very close. After almost 7 years I'm feeling burned out, my husbands feeling neglected so we decided to take a much needed vacation. Since they need around the clock care, the best option is to place them in a nursing home. I know my husband and I need some alone time to reconnect however I still feel guilty leaving my family in the care of strangers.
Also, I'm afraid he no longer wants my mom to live with us. Although my mom can be a handful, I wouldn't want her to live the remainder of of life in a nursing home. I love both my husband and mother dearly. Any insight or words of encouragement would be appreciated.