A few weeks ago I received a birthday card from a lady I've known for at least 30 years. She was the wife of the first boss I ever had and we've kept in touch and visited frequently over the years. We live in the same town. Her message inside the card said, "Been missing you, Love XXXX". I mailed a card back to her the very next day. In it I mentioned that we'd just moved my Dad into a nursing home because his Alzheimer's (LBD) had begun to worsen and there was no way that he could be cared for at home anymore. I mentioned that I'd been going around in circles for the past several months due to my Dad's illness and helping my Mom out with him, etc. Every time I had talked with my friend over the past several years she had asked how my parents were doing and I'd mentioned Dad's Alzheimer's. It seemed to go in one ear and out the other, as she would continue on to another topic that she was more interested in. Anyway, I let her know that I'd be over for a visit as soon as things settled down a little bit. A few days after I sent the card, I received a generic letter from one of her daughter's along with a picture, stating that it was my friend's birthday the next week and that she loved to receive cards in the mail. So, I sent another card the next day, wishing her a happy B-day, etc. I'm not really a sentimental person, and I really don't usually care about what other people think, etc. But...was it too much to think that my friend might take a few minutes to pick up the telephone, give me a call, and ask how I'm doing, how my Mom is doing, how my Dad is doing, etc? It's strange really. I've known this person for so many years and she appears not to really care. On the other hand, a number of people who I've known for less than a year, and much less intimately than this woman, have sent cards and commiserated with me in person. Am I just being petty in this instance and feeling hurt for no reason? Whenever she has had problems, illnesses, at Christmas, etc. I've visited her, sent cards, given small presents. Has anyone else out there run into this kind of thing?