For many months my husband has been in AL due to dementia, diagnosed by family doctor. He's trying every angle to get out, constantly, constantly lies and covers lies when confronted with more lies, talks about multi-million $ business. He's turned his family against me........I'm the only reason he's there, there's nothing wrong with him, has convinced most of his family there's nothing wrong wtih him; his adult child knows there's something wrong but says he shoul live with me. My doc, other professionals, friends, my family know it would not work for him to live with me. He never stops with scheming to get out. I have durable POA and health care POA, cannot afford guardianship, which maybe would be contested by him and his family. Threatens he's moving out no matter what on April 1. Now, our family doc says he should not go home,has serious concerns about him living on his own in an apt., and driving. Driving test is sched. this week. He's met personally with psychology tech and pscyh. intern at VA who then met with psychologist (without my husband present). Their report says he has mild cognitive decline, not dementia. They also indicated it's stressors - indicating I'm the stressor that's causing his prob and suggested couples therapy. My husband said he doesn't think that's necessary. Now there are 2 different opinions between our family doc and VA mental health....he met with psychiatrist at VA. Psychiatrist at VA called me, said he presents himself very well, but agrees he has grandiose plans for an 81 yr old ==== husband told him about plans for a "multi- million business he's planning, etc.)" Psychiatrist asked how he plans to implement the business, husband said I don't know, but it will cost 1/4 million $$$ for one press to make the tool and he needs 30 presses and plans to make 9.4 million tools. Psychiatrist said after talking with me he feels he should not come home, says he has serious concern with his mental stability, he could be delusional or could be developing a psychosis. He said he need to speak with our family doctor before he completes his report which could be ten more days. In the meantime, we're paying several thousand $$ for AL. I am almost decided to divorce him, I know this sounds desparate, but I AM!!!. My health is now being affected and he's not even living with me. I now have started taking anti-anxiety medication. All my friends and family agree I should divorce him. If I do, all assets & $$ will be split in 1/2, I believe, including house. Don't know how I could survive financially; am willing to make reasonable sacrifices to do this, I'm at my wits end!! However, I feel guilty filing for divorce; then who would be in charge of him, at that time (post divorce) he would have 1/2 of all our assets & $$, but see no other way out. My emotions can no longer deal with all of this stress, in one month it will be 1 year since all of this started. Under these circustances, is it legal for me to divorce him??? If we divorced, would assets & $$ be divided equally, or would he get more since he's ill, if so how would I survive? Any ideas? This is an unbearable mess. Thanks for any ideas.