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My Uncle, my cousin, and I all take turns caring for my grandmother who has Dementia. We decided to hire a part-time caregiver to take some of the stress off us, as we all have our own jobs and families to raise and take care of. We liked her when we hired her but her quality of care turned out to be very poor. After just a few months she started refusing to take care of the household chores, ie, changing soiled sheets and mopping urin up when there was an accident, are just 2 things amoung many. So after trying to discuss these things with her and pointing things out, she started getting worse, not bothering to wipe my grandmother after she had a bowel movement, and not complying with our requests. After my family gathered to discuss the situation, we decided to let her know that we would no longer be needing her services. She flew off the handle sending emails out saying ugly lies about my family and sending harassing texts to my uncle. I sent her back an email trying to explain our position and that it is final. Now she is continuing with nasty hatefull emails again. I am wondering if we should just block her emails from coming or if there is any legal action we should take to make sure this harassment doesn't escalate?

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I'd try blocking emails and ignoring her, as she likely thrives on hurting you and knowing she has. Many people need an audience or they burn out and turn their anger elsewhere. However, if you feel threatened in any way, you can turn to law enforcement. I don't think they can do much unless there's an actual threat, however. The alternative is to save the emails, but don't answer them. Then, if she is threatening you in emails, you can give the evidence to law enforcement. Give it some thought, and if you feel you should, talk to an attorney for advice.
Take care,
Carol
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OH I feel bad for you, as I have had caregivers turn out poorly, they weaken over time. First of all you can go online and block your cellphone so she cannot contact that way. You can block email but it goes into your spam box so you might have to change your email or just ignore it (thats hard to do). IF she shows up, call the police and have her removed from your property. Also get a camera system in your house now, and rehire someone with good references, having help is a lifesaver. You can monitor them online while you are at work, or once home. I have caught a caregiver sleeping, smoking, accidentally yet slowly dropping my mom, and only starting to sing with her as I drove in the driveway only, its incredible what you will see. I also found one to be the best darn caregiver there ever was and I still have her. I need another person for more hours, trying to do that now and its hard to find good help for sure. Good Luck.
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I would get a restraining order against this person.
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Your uncle can also save the text messages for proof. Also, not only can you block emails from being received from her, you can also block her cell phone so you don't receive any calls and texts. Check with your cell phone provider on how to do this.
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I am glad you took the steps necessary to protect your grandmother. What a scarey situation that would be for someone who is debilitated. While there are some really good caregivers out there, there are also wackos who think their job is to get paid for showing up. I would block the e-mails & the texts. You don't need the hassel. If you have anymore problems, contact the authorities. Your case is closed with her & what she is doing is harassment.
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