I have posted in this forum before regarding my mother who I take to Florida for the winter and have done so for 5 years since she was widowed. She now has memory issues but what is getting to me is her constant gloom and doom. We are back from Florida, I took her to her home and turned her care over to my sister who lives five minutes from her as I live an hour away. I find myself not wanting to even visit right now or help out. I've been the main caregiver for the last five years and the go to for everything and before that was the go to for mom and my stepdad. I am burned out, but the hard thing is my mother is so negative to be around. All she talks about is who is sick and dying. She lives in a small town where there is a lot of gossip and everyone knows what everyone is doing, I live in a city where I know nothing. I'm not interested in the gossip of mom's small town, it's usually negative, sad things. There seems there is no joy in my mother's life anymore despite the fact she has 11 great grandchildren, a church family and a family who loves her. From the time I walk in, she starts talking about who is sick, who is dying, etc. she even does this on the phone. In Florida for 3 month, she stayed in the house on the recliner under a blanket when it was beautiful outside. When our friends would visit she gave them the third degree, asking everything about them. She was bothered by the fact a neighbor owned four cars and commented about every time we drove by. Every time we go to someone's house for dinner, she immediately starts worrying there aren't enough seats for people to sit and eat. She worries if there are enough parking spots. She seems overly concerned about empty stores and constantly comments about them. It's about driving me crazy and I find myself not wanting to be around her. I feel awful feeling that way. She is on an antidepressant and antianxiety med. from the time I walk into her house I start feeling anger. I have been there for my mother ever since my dad died forty five years ago, been there for mom and my stepdad, he passed five years ago, is it I am just burned out and it's time to step aside and just let my sister completely take over? She has not been there for mom totally before but has done better since returning from Florida mainly because I have been sick also since returning. My brother doesn't help at all. Something needs to change, I don't want to feel anger towards my mother. I think she has OCD, of course age appropriate dementia some of these things she can't help but something in me has changed after this last stay in Florida and I don't like me.