My husband and I have been caring for his mother with Dementia for a year now. She was initially staying with her daughter who was doing a HORRIBLE job. It seems like things took a turn for the worst the beginning of the year(2019) We found out she was wetting herself at night and hiding the underwear under her bed so now we have her put on a pull-up every night (that's a fight in it's self) she's become more aggressive and not wanting to do what we tell her ie: bathe..brush your teeth...change your clothes the basic ADL'S. My husband and I both work Mon- Fri 7am-4pm. She goes to an adult daycare during the day. Sometimes at night we can't get her to go to bed at all. It's become really stressful but when everyone see's her they look at her and say she looks like a sweet old lady...We are both getting really frustrated and we realize it's not her it's her condition but it's getting really hard to take care of her because we are stressed. Other family members can't help because they don't realize she has to stay on a schedule and they just let her do whatever the hell she wants and when we get her back we're the ones that suffer. We are considering moving her into an ALF with memory care. What are you guys thoughts? My husband and I were feeling guilty about the decision but I told him if ever taking care of her affects our well- being and our marriage we are going to have to move her.