Mom and Dad drew up a Living Trust in 1997, and created Durable POAs (medical and financial) at the same time. On the POAs, they named my younger sisters as the 1st and 2nd, and me as the 3rd -- so if my younger sisters are not available or able, in order, then I'm the POA. At the time this was very sensible because I lived across the country.
These POAs have recently expired and new ones need to be done. I figured that rather than pay a lawyer to draw up the same papers, I can type them up following the language of the originals, and then take Mom to get them signed and notarized and copies made for each of us sisters to have one on hand. However, since I'm her Caregiver and with her 24/7, it seems most sensible to me to have myself named 1st, and my sisters as 2nd and 3rd.
The way the language reads, in a way it doesn't matter who is 1st because for example if Mom is hospitalized and one of my sisters is there and I don't happen to be, and a decision has to be made, that sister can make it and doesn't need to wait for me to arrive. But I would feel a little more comfortable being 1st on the POA list particularly because I am the main person with whom her doctors and bank people interact. What does anyone think?