We have a caregiver for our elderly parents. She worked in daycare before, has no formal training but is a mom so things are assumed. Despite being told to stop asking my parents if "they need to go potty", "honey, sweetie, little one", wanting to only be with my parents. Not recognizing when she should step away...example when our cousins visited my Dad having not seen them in 50 years, she remained in my parents apartment until she was introduced. My cousin stated later "who was that woman insinuating herself into our family". This past weekend I arrived to give my dad a bath and asked her to leave and return in 2 hours. When she returned she apparently asked the receptionist "is she out of here yet". She then came to their room, came right in and over to my mom "has she had water" I said yes I just gave her a drink. She ignored me and gave my mom more water...not even noticing that her cannula was not on. I then noticed and put my mom's air on her....the girl then came right over and attempted to put the cannula with me already doing it. Then she walks over to my dad. I had washed his hair and it was a bit fly away....she proceeds to lick her palm and slick down his hair. I immediately put my hands up and said "can you just stop it, they are not your parents and you are not their daughter". My sister likes her because she will sub at anytime for my sister. I suspect my sister tells her to ignore what I ask and say but I don't know for sure. All I want is for her to observe established boundaries for a caregiver. No gifts or presents, no honey, sweetie crap, understand when to back off.