My mother is an alcoholic. She is ninety years old. She has had numerous falls over the years that resulted in evident injury or hospitalization. Her doctor has advised her to not drink alcohol. I live in another state so can only make periodic visits. I refuse to buy my mother alcohol when I visit. I have some practised responses and leave the room; I won't get reeled in for a debate about this. I've encouraged the caregivers from the agency to do the same thing. The alcohol abuse was still evident when I visited this time. I asked the care aide how my mother was getting the alcohol and she said that sometimes my mother buys it herself (my mother sends the care aide to other parts of the store and then she will go to the alcohol dept and buys it herself). The care aide can express concern, but I am told that she is overruled. Sometimes she is ordered by my mother to go get the alcohol and she said that she cannot refuse. Is this true? Is it true that anything that a client wants the caregiver agency has to get it for them even though they have realistic concerns about the purchase? What can they do and still keep their job and their integrity? What can I say/do from long distance? No, there is no guardianship in place. This would be difficult for me living long-distance and having limited resources. Per this question I am concerned about the care agency having to do this and knowing it is harmful for my mother. What can they say/do? What can be done? I'll read more about other effects of alcoholism in other discussions. Thank you.