I need advice on a terribly embarrassing situation with my father-in-law...

Hi Jim,
Don't be embarrassed --we pretty much all have had embarrassing moment with our loved ones!

Does your FIL take Requip (or ropinirole ) for his Parkinson's ? I think that is a common drug used for Parkinson's. That can cause sexual side effects and lack of inhibitions. Look it up on the Internet. My suggestion is talk with his doctors! I bet they can help!!! He should get off Requip if he does take it, I think.

Good luck!

Well when my son was 4 he decided to show all the little girls on the bus just what his penis looked like. I was sooo embarassed when the principal called. well after the second time he did it i bought him shorts and sewed the zippers closed and got them one size to big and a nice big belt put on backwards so he couldnt get it off to show anyone anything. He even had to ask for help to go pee because someone had to undo his belt so he got embarassed by that . Maybe it will work for your dad too. worth a try . lol

put oprah reruns on his tv. that would kill the mood for me.. brrrr

But , Ferris, that is exactly what the poster is talking about!!! I don't understand what you are not getting???

Tell him if he wants to do that, he has to do it in his room. Just like the little boy that discovers it feels good messing with his penis, if you make a big deal about it he'll do it all the more. But if you tell the kid he MUST do it in his room, they usually get bored and move on. That's just bad behavior. Period.

The old pervert comment was not for your FIL,Jim- but referring to joycews. I was commiserating with her situation--did not want you to think I was referencing yours.

Well, Ferris, what can I say---good to know that you think it is OK to sit in the family room with company and go at it.

Actually ferris it is a crime to masterbate in public of in front of an unwilling audience. I don't think the issue is the masterbation but where he is doing it. And though we all can sympathize with the man and his disease he needs to zip it in public!
Joycews, what a bad situation. Ugh--- wish I could give you some advice but I just don't know ....:0( (((((hugs))))

Hi Jim,
I understand about embarrassment with the inappropriate sexual behavior in a parent. My Dad had dementia and it was so shocking at first but I kept reminding myself it was the disease not my Dad. He was given medication, seraquil, (sp?) which helped to calm him. The psychiatric nurse helped to explain the behavior. I learned I had to keep asking for help until I finally got it! Hang in there and remember it is the disease.

Yes, his doctor can prescribe a drug that lowers the testosterone. It is probably soothing to him, and since he has no other release, he releases. It is not a crime to masturbate and when he starts leave the room. Parkinson's is a degenerative disease and it will stop pretty soon given his diagnosis. Make sure all his blood work is current and the testosterone levels checked just to be sure nothing else is going on. He might not be aware he is doing it, his penis may itch, or it just feels good. Stay out of his business and you can do your own thing.

Oh I know Mishka, we just keep her away and are in the process of just giving up. I noticed too the original posters comment of, "no matter who may be there." Let's just say if my child was around him (be it a family member or neighbor) it would be my business real fast. We excuse too much in our society with age discrimination.