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What can I do when my mother who is in a CH has had things going missing from her room. I have already made the manageress aware of this and she said she will speak to the carers as it is 'not on' (her words)

Put a camera in her room. Also, we just moved my MIL to a memory care facility and her neighbor is a wanderer and a "taker." Could it be something like that? Also, take an inventory of items, then keep the door locked at all times. When something goes missing, then it could only be the staff because no one else would have access.
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Just a little tip that I use. The top of a Tic-Tac container can be removed and it will hold three AA batteries or four AAA batteries. I think it is possible for loose batteries to short out if not contained.
If you were to use this method for the 2032 or button batteries something should be laced between them.
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Thanks for all replies. Firstly 'not on' a UK saying for not acceptable. Secondly all my moms clothes are labelled and although sometimes they too go missing are usually returned in time. There is no money or things of value in moms room as was advised on arrival, The things that go missing are the daily things she uses like bottles of water & toiletries which I bring in regularly. Although these are not expensive I feel that its the principal that these are going missing. No mom is not hiding or throwing them away as suggested, they are definitely being taken. Other than this problem mom is happy in this very small CH but it is unsettling for her that this is happening.
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Got to say, in NJ and DE they are not allowed to use seatbelts unless the resident can unbuckle it themselves. Otherwise its a restraint.

I took nothing of value to the AL or home. Mom was never a jewerly person so no problem there. I took pictures a everything she owned. This is how the laundress found her clothes. I took a picture of her glasses. But Mom used to get in her closet and throw clean clothes in the laundry. She was never a purse person so didn't need a wallet. I noticed her room wasn't being dusted and I asked why. Because some expensive nick nacks had been broken so HC had been told not to dust where these things were. The problem was, they dusted nothing. Not the headboard, not the window ledges. Its hard to blame anyone because you never know what the resident will do. Other residents are allowed free rein. So, my Mom had the minimum in her NH. Not even a winter coat. I felt I could take that with me if I needed to take her out.
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Things do go missing in Homes. I had a Patient that used to go into others rooms and steal the candy from their bowls or steal flowers she liked off their wreaths on there doors. Additionally electronics need to be cleared by staff ..as old ones can be dangerous to all . Had another patient who had a floor lamp . It had a piece of wood near the bulb ( so it wouldnt wiggle) We had to take it and replace it with one we happened to have in storage ( from others that had passed i assumed) If its a nursing home, dont keep cash beyond a couple bucks. There is usually a canteen that has her money recorded and gives her credit for it. Ive had to remove 9 pairs of scissors from a room ( 3 at a time i kept finding htem) As the patient kept cutting off her wheel chair seat belt and falling ( she was a seamstress lol)
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thx
sometimes when things go missing, in my head (sorry) im thinking WHAT the He!!
I spend an hour organizing her large clothes closet...and before I know it...everything is moved around. so I need AA batteries, I know she has some. cause I put them in a clear shoebox on the shelf. no where to be found. I finally found them. I remember telling the geriatric dr this...and she said - don't leave anything in the room that you want to use (like batteries) She advised I should keep those in my possession (I always carry a fabric carry all bag. I even carry my own reading glasses for sewing her buttons etc. BECAUSE I can never find them when I need them. I put them in her little sewing tin and they are always gone
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You’re right, Wally. My mom once hid her wallet under her dresser. WAY UNDER! For the life of me I don’t know how she got down there and back up. Then, she forgot and called the police! She thought she was being stalked and her “stalker”broke into her apartment and stole the wallet. Geeze. At least the officer was nice-looking!

Give Wallycat a hug. 😁
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yes, what is missing?
my mom hides stuff. she has a purse and a wallet, but nothing of real value inside(a little cash& ID). she keeps her purse hidden inside a hanging jacket. one day I checked inside the purse and the wallet was gone. even tho theres not much inside the wallet I was still upset it was missing. well the wallet was in her chest of drawers along with her Jewelry(just costume etc)
I read somewhere that someones LO hid things under the mattress.
make sure all her things are labeled with name or room number. I know that wont stop someone from taking...
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“Not on” what? What’s going missing? If she has things of value or heirlooms in her room, you may want to remove them. My mom actually had a chair go missing once when they told me they had removed it for cleaning. I was also told she knocked her television off the table and broke it as well but we’re suspicious of that.

Things go missing. Laundry, personal care items, books, etc. I never knew whose clothes Mom would be wearing when I visited and I once saw her slippers on another resident. But, she was clean and dressed so I didn’t say anything. All her possessions, down to her clothing, was kept in a log at the nurse’s station. I learned that she, herself would throw things away. She threw away countless combs and toothbrushes and once, her false teeth. She also went into other patient’s rooms and took things. Once she “boosted” a family photo album and then showed it to me, totally confused by pictures of all these people she didn’t recognize.

If she has anything of value in her room, remove it immediately. Explain you’ll keep it safe for her. Staff wasn’t much help when stuff of my mom’s disappeared unless they found it in the trash.
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