In about 10-15 years, I may be responsible for the health and financial decisions of my mother, father, step-mother, uncle and my dad's cousin. I don't know how this would physically and emotionally be possible. For starters, I live in Seattle. My mom lives in Seattle, and I'm completely able and willing to be her caregiver. But my dad, stepmom and my dad's cousin live in Hawaii. My uncle lives in San Diego.
As you may have guessed, I'm an only child. I was raised by my mother and saw my dad just once a year. I lived in Hawaii and he lived in California. I saw my uncle about as much as my dad. As for my dad's cousin, she lived in Hawaii, so I saw her at family gatherings. My uncle and dad's cousin never married or had kids. I'm not currently close to them or my dad now. All of them are in their mid-to-late 60's.
So my uncle just signed his estate documents. I'm designated as his Power of Attorney for financial and health decisions. (No, he did not ask me first.)
I'm the back-up Power of Attorney for my dad's cousin. My dad is the primary Power of Attorney, but he is older than his cousin. I agreed to this arrangement when I was younger and didn't quite comprehend the responsibility involved.
I'm completely stressed and perplexed by this situation. I don't know how I could possibly handle the financial and health affairs of so many people, especially people whom I'm not emotionally and physically close to.
Seeking all and any advice???