My 75 year old mother in law has many health issues. Her husband passed about about a year and half ago and since the day he died she has lived with my husband and I. In the past 2 years has broken each hip. She doesnt cook or clean. she does her own dishes and laundry. once in awhile she does all the dishes but not often. she gets up sits at the kitchen table reads her newspaper if my husband gets it for her. then goes into "her living room" and watches tv and works a jigsaw puzzle.she is very snoopy. my husband and I cant even talk about things without her eaves dropping. she waits for someone to make her something to eat or else she will get something herself. When she is asked to cook something she says "my cooking has went down hill and I don't know how to cook anymore" when she is asked to clean, she replies"I have cleaned all my life I shouldn't have to do anymore. when she is told it is a beautiful day outside and she should sit out for awhile, she replies "I am an indoor plant". she walks a total of kitchen, bathroom, living room... and no more. My sister in law does not help at all. She told me that she has a family of her own and her mom cannot live with her. So my husband and I feel as though she has to live with us. we don't want to see her go to a nursing home or assisted living because we both work ALOT of hours and wont get a chance to see her very often. Maybe we are thinking that she should help out by cooking or vacuuming. I do not expect her to be my maid. but we pay all the bills and groceries and think she could help out a little. when my one daughter comes home with her two kids I feel as though I am being watched and supervised because every step my daughter takes my mother in law is there. I dont have any alone mother daughter time or time with my grandchildren because my mother in law is ALWAYS there. I love my mother in law dearly, but would like it sometimes if she would give us our space. My husband has talked with her many times about this but then she gets very upset and goes the complete opposite. there is no happy medium. my husband is soooooo stressed out by all of it that I fear for his health. I have learned to deal with most of it but there are times that I just dont want toi go home. We have a beautiful place in the country and since we work so much there are times we just want to sit outside and enjoy the peace and quiet but if we sit outside on our deck, then she is there. always there. not sure what to do anymore. thank you for letting me vent.