My mother and my husband have not gotten along for a very long time, but now, my mom cannot be left alone and 3 of us are in charge of watching her. I watch her 2 days a week, my brother another 2 days and her grandson 3 days. When she is at our house, my husband complains to me that he doesn't want her there and says mean things about her, hoping she will hear them. She sometimes does and wants to leave, but I try to make her think he is talking about something else, and not her.
I know she has made some mistakes in her life, one of them being that she will leave everything only to her grandson, (another reason my husband does not want to have her at home). He says if he is leaving everything to him, he should take care of her and not ask for any help. She also has supported her grandson for years. He does not work.
I understand my husband's anger, but she is still my mother and if she wants to spend some time with me, I have to let her.
I just don't think I can take the nagging anymore. My husband gets really mad at me for having her, so he argues with me and then doesn't talk to me for days. The situation is very tense.
To add to this, her grandson is mad at the whole family, doesn't talk to me, is always upset at his own father, my brother. He tries to find things we did wrong to call my brother and scream at him, because she forgot her glasses at my house or her clothes, or whatever insignificant thing. He also has a say in everything. My brother and I wanted to hire someone to watch her sometimes and he will not allow us to.
I don't think I can live like this very long. I feel that the stress is going to make me ill. I sometimes have a pain in my chest.
I am almost ready to rent an apartment and stay there the two days and nights that my mother has to be with me.