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I suggest a two-part approach to this situation. First, eat your meals alone, in a serene place. Maybe set up a tea table in your bedroom. Use nice dishes and pretty napkins and make meals a little respite for you during the day. You may have to be creative about the timing, but you deserve a calm meal. You may still need to be with Mom when she eats her meals, but you don't have to eat then.
Secondly, to the extent that you can, try to reduce the things that disgust you. You may not be able to get her to hold her head up, but perhaps you can reduce the odors by keeping her scrupulously clean throughout the day. Yes, that will be more work for you, and you will still be exposed to the odors while you are cleaning her, but confining it to specific times may be better than having it pervasive throughout the day.
Don't be hard on yourself that you find these details unpleasant. Don't let anyone shame you about it. Your reaction is quite normal. The fact that you are continuing to care for Mom in spite of your distaste shows you are a loving person.
Best wishes to you.