my Mom's best friend who is 85 has been living with her for years. Now they both need help. Both deaf, her friend really should not be driving my Mom's car. Mom can't get out, on oxygen, congestive heart failure, legs have to be propped up all day...both minds are starting to go. Mom is very agitated and when not, sleeping all the time. Watches tv all day, and does cross word puzzles. Has fallen 5 times in the past year, pneumonia . has had lymphoma, cancer free for 10 years, but legs are always swollen. Last fall she took, got huge lump on shin,,cellulitis. I flew home cause she did not go to hospital. I took her,,,she was on antibiotics for 10 days. Lump is still there, doc says it's a vein. Has COPD, R Arthritis flares. and very heavy 200 lbs. hard to breath even with oxygen. Toes are turning white. I don't want to be living in her house. I find myself fixing the house, she does nothing to fix it. She won't eat properly, her friend still tries to cook,,,terrible. I am a chef, Mom would like me to cook more often, but her friend gets put out...A big dish of Ice cream every night. She knows all my furniture is in storage in another state, but I can't afford to get it. She won't tell me her financial situation, but I took her to get help with fuel bills, and they said she had to much money. The house is paid for, and I believe she lives off of her social security which is small, but takes interest off of CD's. I have tried talking to her about letting me invest some of her money, as I used to be a trader, she'll none of it. She says she can't help me, cause she needs the money to pay bills for the house and live. Her live in friend pays nothing, and gets a larger check every month as she worked for years. My mom never worked. They are both driving me crazy. I would like to go back to where I lived but don't have a job. I was making 10.00 an hour, and could not afford to live on that, and it was a part time job. In the past 2 weeks I have applied for 18 jobs, and got no response from any. I do not even have a car anymore, my ex husband who was paying for it, wealthy, took it away from me. I have to borrow my Mom's car when I have to go somewhere. I never get out of the house except to work out, which I do daily. I eat healthy, and they make fun of me. They were going in my room when I was not there, so I bought a lock set and installed it my self..My Mom lost it,,,she yells at me all the time. or ignores me. Can someone give me some advise on what to do? I am at wit's end..I need a job but I don't want to live here.