My mother had a stroke. I believe alcohol related. She drinks 2 gal of whiskeyweek. She had to stop working. I have helped her get disability, and an apartment. She says I ruined her life by doing so. I carried her to the bathroom for a week after she came home from the hospital and I have a bad back. I walk her dog everyday. Take her anywhere she needs to go. Separate her medicine into doses. Clean and help any way I can. Before she had the stroke, she was drinking 2 half gallons of whiskey a week before the stroke, now she drinks 4 half gallons a week. She has been in the hospital 4 times this year. If she refuses to get help, how much should I help her? Where is the line between helping my elderly parent and enabling. I am exhausted. Also, she was abusive to me as a child. And she still criticizes everything that I do for her. Her favorite son does nothing to help.