How do you care for your Dad who is incontinent?

I've gone thru the same thing but my father is less responsible than your dad. He was living in a very unsanitary situation. I regret not calling in social services, dept. of aging much sooner. His situation turned into a UTI that caused sepsis. After over a month of trying to get him hospitalized, a doctor came to the house and finally somehow convinced him he needed to go to the hospital. From there it was a rehab/nursing home stay and then home on hospice care. We now have home health aides that come thru the week to bath him and make sure he has clean pullups on. He fights it but we have had no choice. He was not making good decisions for himself.

He was never diagnosed as to why he has incontinence. I hate to think there is a solution and medication to treat his cause and he is not taking advantage of it.