I'm in my third trimester of pregnancy with twins. My spouse is very enmeshed w/ her mother and has been taking care of her for the past 8 years. We got married and she moved in with us about 2 years ago.
She had a recent acute health problem which she has been hospitalized for the past week. In light of this recent health difficulty, I think it's best if we find alternative living arrangements for my MIL. We have twins on the way!!!! My spouse does not see it this way and does not want to be separated from her mom. She thinks that she will be able to manage caring for 2 babies and her mother. It's not fair that we have to try to juggle being new parents and taking care of MIL---she lived her life and her poor health is a result of poor lifestyle choices and she never saved up money to plan for her future. Her sister who lives 8 hours away is ready and willing to have their mom move in with them. How can I get my wife to realize that this is the best option for us all? It's time for her to live her life and I think we both deserve to raise these babies without the added stress of taking care of her elderly mom as well. Please help!