Mom had a stroke down in South Carolina a couple weeks ago. She is in her late 50s. I am in my later 20s and live with my grandmother who is in her early 80s. Grandma still works weekends and I work part time to help out. I have an older sister who is intellectually disabled that had been in mom's care but because of the stroke and another incident before the stroke happened, grandma and I had to drive down from Virginia to get sister. Mom was in the hospital and we could not stay. I was not able to drive back down to get her so my friend drove my grandmother and picked her up from hospital when they said she could leave. She had had a brain bleed. After three days of being with us in VA, she seemed to relapse. She wasn't eating, drinking, or taking her meds. She would fuss at us to leave her alone. Grandma had to call paramedics to take her to the local ER where they did a scan and saw she was still bleeding. They transferred her to another hospital where she was in the neuro ICU for day or two before transferring to another part of the hospital. She was there three days and just discharged on fourth day. Now, she has been home 1 night and already its apparent Grandma and I cannot care for her right now. She has a follow up doctor appointment in one month. Mom thinks she is alright and can travel to her home in SC by herself (and with sister but that cannot happen). Mom is very unsteady on her feet, cannot walk a straight line, is a serious fall risk. She also abuses her medications. Grandma has her meds and was giving her what she needed when it was time but mom has been fussing that she needs more of this or another of that. In the middle of the night Mom got into Grandma's own medication and took something. Didn't seem to affect her whatever it was, but it was a rough night. We all hardly slept. Mom is very stubborn and can't comprehend reason right now. She has tricare thanks to her deceased husband so a skilled nursing facility is covered. We just don't know how to get her into one. Apparently the nurses and doctors at the hospital even suggested that but grandma didn't feel like 'abandoning her'. But now it is evident she needs more care than we can give. What do we do? Do we call social services? Adult protective services? She is not capable of being on her own right now, especially not in another state where there is no one to look in on her.