I've been taking care of my elderly mother for only a year and a half now, but during this time my own health is suffering, and my work has changed to where I am gone 12 to 14 hours out of the day. She uses emotional blackmail, guilt, and even my own belief systems against me to keep control of what happens in my own home. I just can't do this anymore, but she refuses to leave. What can I do? Please help.