I need Power of Attorney, but my mother can't even sign her name and she will never agree to signing her life over to me. What's the best way to deal with this?

Dear NiN2R3 I did not even know that a lien was placed on my mom's house until the day of the closing by the nursing home up North. When we all were in the lawyers office in New York that's when we all found out. A check had to be made payable to the nursing home and then I had to continue paying until I was able to get mom to Flodia with me. The nursing home only told me the house had to sold and my unclse must leave his place of living of over 26 years. (mom had a two family home, he did help out a lot) each state has it's laws. But if the house can be put in your name have it don, to save grief. My mom had the illness a long time.

How does a person give power of attorney if he is paralyzed and can't sign his name, but still has good mental faculties?

It sucks being an only child. I'm feeling it now more than any other time of my life. I am left with a narcissistic, abusive father. He's 80, has no short-term memory which he denies, has been a victim of bank fraud and has lost 10s of thousands of dollars to exploitation by a 25 yr old drug addict, and refuses to sign a POA. I'm kinda of relieved because I don't want to be legally responsible for him any way. We've basically been estranged since my mother died 14 yrs ago. I wonder but try not to worry about what is gong to happen to him. He has no one else in his life, but he seems to prefer it that way. He is toxic to me. I suffer from depression and physical problems after I've interacted with him. My husband tells me that our family is suffering because of what it does to me to try to help him. I don't know what the solution is, but for now, I'm taking a long break from him.

Oo, now, there are ways round that one, Rayth - I suggest you download the appropriate forms and read the guidance notes. I think his representative has to sign on his behalf stating why he's doing so, and that has to be witnessed too; but it's a while since I read the guidelines. But I'm sure it's been thought of - it shouldn't be hard to check.

She does NOT want the POA, so you either let the state declare her incompetent (if she is) and they take over, or you hire a Lawyer and spend about $5000 to petition the court and have the JUDGE appoint you her guardian.