Brother refuses to let me or my family see or speak with mom with Alzheimer's. What can I do.

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I also believe mom is being denied proper medical care and also financial abuse is occuring

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Thanks again I have a specific timeline. For me. I Just want to see mom. I know she is not well, for my brother it's about isolation, control, and abuse. I am going to APS but I believe my brother is to smart and shrewd for APS to be effective. I hope I am wrong.
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Why do you think your sister cut off communication with you five months ago?

Suppose you succeeded in removing your mother from your brother/sister's care: what alternative arrangements do you have in mind?

When you speak to the authorities, which everyone is correctly urging you to do, you will find them much more receptive if you are very clear on the details. Your mother was moved into your sister's house, correct? And your brother lives near to them, lives with them, or what? Or are you talking about a sister and brother-in-law? I know this will sound like nit-picking, but it makes it very hard to get a clear picture of what's going on when we can't understand easily who is doing what exactly.

How have you seen your brother's large investments? What has he invested in?

I think you will find that APS will respond if you tell them that neither you nor her doctor has been able to get near your mother for five months to check on her wellbeing; give them the doctor's name and contact number for back-up, if you like; and tell them why you suspect your brother is spending your mother's money other than for her benefit. But when you speak to them slow down, answer their questions carefully, and try not to get upset - it weakens your credibility and will make them less likely to raise the alarm.
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Mom was living alone up to a year ago. Sister moved mom in about a year ago into her house. I have seen mom sick and sister did not get mom medical care. I was visiting mom up to about 5 months ago when sister shut down all communications and visits

When I was seeing mom, she had bronchitis and sister refuses to take her to the dr. Brother also refuses dental care, and mom also has diabetes. I spoke with moms dr and he told me he wanted to see mom. He called to set up an appointment with no answer. I have also seen that my brother recently has purchased large investments all of a sudden

I have a complete diary of isolation, lack of medical care, and financial abuse
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Where is your mother living?
How is your brother preventing you from seeing her?
What reason does he give for refusing to let you see her?
How long has it been since somebody other than your brother saw your mother to speak to?
If you haven't been able to see your mother, how has the lack of medical care come to your attention?
What involvement have you had with her care before now? - what needs does she have that you believe are not being met?
Does your brother have financial POA? What leads you to believe there is financial mismanagement?

I'm sorry to lead with all these questions; but if you need to report your concerns they are the sorts of things you will be asked - so best to get your ducks in a row, then you're more likely to get something done.
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I have seen for myself medical care not being provided and financial abuse
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There must be a reason behind your brother's refusal. Have you tried asking him why he does so?? And if you are sure that she is being abused in any way, report it to local authorities. But if you think that she is being abused because your mom tells you so, you should do some research ,because usually such patients are very unpredictable and often say things that aren't true. Just don't take sides
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