My husband and I are buying a house chosen to accommodate my mother, who has very limited ability. She hasn't moved in with us yet, but that will happen in the coming months. My mother has very limited mobility due to inactivity, pain, and fear. Those three factors have been a huge feature of her life for 10 years. She's fallen and been in accidents that have left her afraid to move, which has made moving more difficult and more painful. She walks very, very slowly with a walker, even after extensive physical therapy. Watching this from a distance, I've become more and more focused on my own strength, flexibility and fitness. Can you see the conflict coming? I am already struggling with fury at the way she's allowed herself to become trapped in her body. She has a history of childhood abuse, suffered through a bad marriage and divorce (from my father), and a major career disappointment when she tried to become a pastor. She just wants to be comfortable now, and to be taken care of. I get that. But she dwells so much on the negative. She loves her wounds so much, and I can't take it. It hurts to watch her hurt, and it makes me want to say things that I'm sure will hurt her further, because being hurt is what she does. Help!