Disabled needing financial assistance, living in own home. Husband w/ALZ. in N.H. a must. This question for a friend of mine we live in the state of OKlahoma. I may not have enough info.. My friend told me that all benifits were taken away from her mother ,even her life alert sytem. Her Mother is wheelchair bound needs help with many physical activitys like bathing and has a Aide come in to help and she pays out of pocket. Her mother lives in her own home they -her and her husband have a reverse mortgage. My friend told me because of her Dad is in a N.H. her Mother no longer has any benefits even her life alert was discontinued. My friends mother is in her mid 70s. My friend nor I understand under how any of this works? Can't medicare/medicaid help her Mother what options resources does her Mother have?