I live in CA/San Fran Bay Area & after visiting/contacting 13 SNFs, none had open beds or even a waitlist. They just said to keep checking back. Not very encouraging. I’ve cared for frail 91 yo mom w/dementia & fall risk in my home over 20 yrs, w/last 2 yrs requiring 24/7 attention. I’ve had to hire help some nites just to get sleep. Also have husband & 14 yo daughter to care for. I’m nearing the end of my reserves of compassion & caregiving ability. I’ve spoken to various social workers, local area agency on aging, the CA waiver program and several geriatric care managers. The only “helpful” suggestions I rcvd was “pay $10k for 1st mo upfront” or “hope she goes to hospital & then refuse to take her home”. Apparently it’s all about profit & Medicaid simply doesn’t pay enough. Really?? Is this the best we can do for decent people at the end of their life and for their families who have cared for them as long as humanly possible? My parents never thought they’d live long enough to need care, so even though they worked hard & comfortably, they had no savings/investments for the future. Mom only receives monthly SS pymt. Husband & I have resources & have already paid to help w/mom’s care, but we can't deplete our resources to care for her & simply pass the same problem on to our kids to care for us if/when the time comes. So, does anyone have other suggestions ... or maybe even simple validation that I’ve done what I can & this sucks?? Have been reading other posts here for a year now. Info has been a lifesaver!! Thank you all!!