I am turning into an emotional wreck. I have been caring for Mom for over 8 years and others prior for a total of 17. I am her POA and I have two siblings who cannot care for her as they both work. One lives with us but was not helping, then began to help out some but is now getting ready to "jump ship" and move if she can.
I have become so tired, physically, mentally and emotionally that I began having panic and anxiety attacks again. I wake up in the morning with weight on my chest, hard to breathe and it is anxiety and dread, knowing what the day will bring. I do not want to keep doing this, I am exhausted. I use to swear to Mom (and Dad) that I would never put them into a nursing home, but I just cannot keep living my life every day like this. I am becoming afraid for my own health and well being. I am getting upset with Mom and I am tired of hearing her yell at me that "if I don't like the way things are around here then I can pack my s---t and get out,......or get out and live on the streets....or I am tired of looking at your face around here so get out!" I know she is angry and upset and yes I know it is the disease, but this is just too much and too often and if this stuff is said to you often enough, you do take it personally!
Mom has moderate dementia in some areas could be considered severe on a scale I found on the internet. Her memory lasts from about 5 to 10 maybe 15 minutes depending on what it is. She is ambulatory and able to take care of her personal needs, bathroom, brush teeth, comb hair, make bed and she loves to sit in the sun on the patio. She no longer does any cooking or chores other than help fold towels.
She has atrial fib and takes meds for it and dementia but no other real medical problems.
What do I do if I feel that I can no longer take care of her and there is no family member willing or able to care for her? What do I need to do? Is there an agency or anything that can help me place her somewhere? And where a nursing home or what?
I am about a hair away from falling apart LITERALLY FALLING APART! My sister just left for work and my daughter to school and I am sitting in bed shaking, sick to my stomach, and just had to take a Xanax to try and calm down.
Because I am POA everything was thrown on to me to handle and no one ever does anything to help because they are too busy with their jobs and life, I AM OVERWHELMED and at my wits end. HONEST TO GOD I CAN NO LONGER DO THIS!
Can someone please give me advice on what I need to do to get her placed somewhere or get someone to help me place her somewhere. I know I am going to feel guilt when I move her, but I absolutely cannot keep doing this every single day, I am worn out!