What do I need to do if my husband is in a vegetative state of mind after massive stroke? Made too much money to get medi-cal to help pay for his care after the 100 days. I do not have power of attorney. I can't afford to pay out of pocket. That would take up his retirement check and I pay my mortgage and my bills with his retirement. I don't know what to do ...I'm afraid if I get medi-cal they will take my house from me or after I die they will take from my kids.