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My Mom started going down hill over 5 months ago from fall so many times with Parkinson/dementia. She did not have a concussion of the skull but a concussion of the brain the Neurologist doctor said. We had her in assistant living, rehab, and then she had to go into the nursing home.
Last Thursday she was not responding to us and we asked the Hospice nursing, during a meeting, for Mom to be put in the Hospice hospital because she had someone in her room & there was no privacy for the ones that wanted to see Mom. The lady in the room with her, which I'm sure she does not know she does it, has bowel movements all the time plus they are the type that goes everywhere. We have to step outside of Mom's room and raise the windows to be able to stand it.
Hospice nurse said that anyone who wants to say their goodbye's needs to do it now with Mom but it's so crowded in her room you can not get hardly anyone in there. There is not another room, private, that is available at the nursing home.
We are taking turns staying with Mom at night so she won't be by herself when she passes(she was always afraid of that) and also during the day. It is really hard on us as family .
My Mom started going down hill over 5 months ago from fall so many times with Parkinson/dementia. She did not have a concussion of the skull but a concussion of the brain the Neurologist doctor said. Last Thursday she was not responding to us and we asked the Hospice nursing, during a meeting, for Mom to be put in the Hospice hospital because she had someone in her room & there was no privacy for the ones that wanted to see Mom. The lady in the room with her, which I'm sure she does not know she does it, has bowel movements all the time plus they are the type that goes everywhere. We have to step outside of Mom's room and raise the windows to be able to stand it.
Hospice nurse said that anyone who wants to say their goodbye's needs to do it now with Mom but it's so crowded in her room you can not get hardly anyone in there. There is not another room, private, that is available at the nursing home.
We are taking turns staying with Mom at night so she won't be by herself when she passes(she was always afraid of that) and also during the day. It is really hard on us as family .
According to the paper Hospice gave us, Mom has all the criterias for going there but they tell us all kinds of things that don't add up to why she can't go there. Any suggestions? Thanks

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Lynn60, I know it is only a few days since Mom passed...just want you to know some of us are still thinking of you and hoping you are doing OK. Lots of us stay on the boards here and share after our loved one no longer needs our care, because sometimes that's the hardest part of all.
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So sorry
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I am sorry for your loss. It is clear you loved and advocated for her to the end. At some level I believe we are able to feel love regardless of the state of our bodies.
I am sure your love comforted her.
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Thanks for all your input. My Mom passed away this morning.
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Would it be possible for them to transfer her to your home, or to some other relative's home for the final journey? That might be more comforting for her and all of you as well.

I'm sorry they don't have a private or available room to move you into.
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No, she's not dying according to her family who comes in often. It's just they don't have another room for this type of situation and you know that when you go into a nursing home, especially the Alzheimer's unit, you are going to pass away there.
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Lynn, please consider that the other lady in the room may be dying, but her family is not there to hold her hand. At least with your mother there, and your relative, she will not be alone either.
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Sorry, my computer doubled what I was typing. Thanks
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She has a room, right where she is. It won't be long. If you need anxiety meds, please get some. You may need them , you are repeating yourself.
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