My 94 yr old mother (with dementia) that lives with me is sick with a really bad cold. As Dr instructed took to ER, they did chest X-ray and nothing else. Back at home she will not take any medication, use a nasal spray, take a hot shower or even sit in bathrm with shower running. Refuses to drink hot liquids. Says she knows how to take care of herself, the end. After a solid week cough is not better. I have hit a wall. Do I just leave her be? She would die before she accepts my help.
Allow your mother to live out the rest of her life on HER terms, I suppose. What kind of a 'life' is it with dementia, anyway? That's what I often wonder. I'm using the palliative care approach with my mother who will be 93 at the end of this month, because we've already saved her life around 4 or 5 times and she says she wants to die. She's had enough. I can't blame her.
Wishing you lots of good luck handing such a tough situation. My heart hurts for you.