I wanted to know if there are laws that could put me at risk as the caregiver of my mother for leaving her alone for an hour to two one day a week. My mother is bedridden and I pay someone to take care of her every weekday and Saturday.
On Sundays I take care of her all day, but at times I need to go to my house which is 3-4 minutes away. She also has hospice service and they come in to bathe her every day, and a nurse from the same hospice service visits three times a week.
Recently, the nurse came in while I was at my house and said that leaving my mother alone is a violation and the next time she would put in a complaint. Is this something they can really do? My mother is not at risk by being by herself for one to two hours. She has a bed with rails and cannot fall off. I have cameras to keep an eye on her while I am not there and like I said, I live 3-4 minutes away. I find it very frustrating to think this is true as how would I even get her stuff from the grocery store when she needs it. Like I said, we always have someone here during the week, but not on Sundays.
Please let me know what are some of you doing with a similar situation. Thank you!
In hospitals and care facilities, when a patient pushes the HELP button to call for help, no nurse or CNA ever comes right away. Usually it takes 15 minutes to 30 minutes for someone to show up. Sometimes, no one shows up at all. Should they be charged with neglect?
I wonder how often the hospital and care facility staff actually check on their patients. Every minute? Every hour? Or every few hours? In between checks, patients fall all the time. I bet some patients choked to death too and no one was there.
I wonder if they should be charged with neglect.
And P.S. and by the way, how in the world did you find a Hospice agency that sends an aide out every day to bathe your mom??? I've never heard of such a thing. My husband got bathed only twice a week while he was under their care, and none during the worst of Covid.(my son and I had to do it )
You, my dear, are doing the best you can and sounds like you are doing a great job! Installing cameras, the anxiety of running that errand, YES, you do care very much!
Consider a different hospice, after that they should be fired! The new hospice I have for my mom is night and day difference. One week they told me mom needs 24/7 care, the next week, because she could barely wobble to the toilet she no longer qualifies. Came in and cut her off. Then I get a call from protective services. A week later mom is diagnosed with lung cancer. I may ask, why is mom bedridden? Does this hospice have her "morphed" out already?
Who would leave an infant in a crib all alone to go run an errand?
"I HOPE NO ONE WOULD."
Guess what? A bedridden person is as helpless as an infant.
Here's another scene. A exhausted, sleep deprived mother finally gets her baby to sleep. She has to shower, takes the trash out, cooks dinner, does the laundry, then maybe collapses into a comalike sleep. While she's doing all those things and sleeping, she can't and doesn't have time to watch the baby.
Here's another scene. A busy daycare center with two care attendants with about 12 kids. Both are busy with the other 11 kids. An infant in the backroom has been crying for 30 minutes. It'll be another hour or two before an attendant can go back to change and feed the baby.
Those who say they never leave a baby alone either forgot what it was like to take care of a baby and having millions of other things going at once, or they never had children.
All mothers do NOT leave their babies in cars while they get gas, etc.
I appreciated your "...you all act like you stay chained to the person you are caring for.." and agree with you.
This forum is getting to be too much for me. I've cutback how often I visit.