This is probably a stupid question... I try to take care of me... my mom is 84, her mom and brother died at 82 of dementia/ Alzheimer/ diabetes. My mom will not for yes admit that was the cause. Use to many yrs back she told me which I already knew. I lived 350 miles away so I stayed in touch weekly with her for the mother daughter bond. She does things at her home, I'm sorry to say, my brother who has bummed off her all his life has always lived with bet! And my dad when he was alive. I don’t talk to him much but I figure since he’s bummed and he lives there least he’s there if she falls. Her Dr. Could only tell me 3 yrs back that yes, he had discussed many times if hemodynamics tests and she refused them. She tells me “ don’t think about it” even on serious things which I don’t see or I can’t do it NOT to think about stuff!
Bottom line.. I need help yes of drawing boundaries. It’s hurt seeing my mom never say I love you or hard to even hug me when I stop by her hoarded home. I think about this and it’s stressful. My “ friends” have left after I said moms hiding her dementia but I see it big time.
I used to have pretty thick long hair. A year ago I started shedding hair bad then it’s stopped some. I went to Dr yesterday and she ordered blood work. She said yes, your hair is thinning which I cried and she said it’s alopecia. She asked if I had been under stress... I said YES! I said my mom lied to me yrs back she didn’t have diabetes... she did. I said I find myself thinking of her situation over there and her all the time.. her changing and having mild dementia and why will she not admit things and why is she numb to most anything! Except she will always defend my brother and now yuch, acts like she’s married to him! It’s alwsys we.
Anyway, I’m scared because I miss my hair and fixing it pretty and I feel it’s over “worry” about her and sadness she can’t or won’t say for last 3 yrs I love u or anything. I know in ways I’ve lost my mom. I have not dated in a year, I find myself thinking of the dysfunction over there. So I gather my hair thinning which hurts is from the stress? I see and not having support. Please pray my hair starts thickening up! I’m a lady and it hurts I can’t look ok because my hair has thinned boom in a yr! It just fake in that fast!! I’m angry at myself but angry I think at her, for denying things and I need my boundaries, so I can have MY life. I’m worried now about my hair. Too my health.
Sorry so long... I’m new on here.