BIL has been pissed since he was not named DPOA or MPOA, acted like a child and would not respond to any calls or texts asking him to visit his dad or even call him once in the last year. Now we just put FIL in AL Memory Care and he has called and harassed the staff and accused my husband and I of kidnapping and holding him hostage! He tried to bully his way into the place and asked about his condition which he doesn’t get to know since he is not POA. He then tried another tact and said somebody visited FIL yesterday and he was “scared” of my husband. Nobody visited FIL except my husband! It all started when he went MIA after laughing at my husband and me for having dad and said I can’t wait for you to come begging for my help! We would never even ask much less beg! Because we took dad and moved him in with us and we took care of him for over a year and when it got too much for us we put him in the most top notch place available. Before he was there 4 days he already started his BS and threatened to sue everyone.
Instead of being grateful that we had him with us 24/7 as long as we could (no breaks and no visits from BIL or his 4 adult children) he is spewing lies about us. He even got to take a trip to Ireland where his dad is from and didn’t bother to see if his dad might want to go!
What can we do? Any help would be appreciated! I’m so mad and hurt over this. It is embarrassing having someone make up bad stuff that never happened all because he thought he should be POA.....turns out he is only a POS!