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Mom lived with my family and I. Mom has now moved to an AFH as I can no longer be her caregiver as the family was really stressing out and I now have to find a full time job and help repair the badly drained family finances. Mom is really doing better at her new home, is well cared for and we see her several times a week. But, we realize that we need to sell our large home and downsize to help reduce the mortgage and monthly bills. We will keep many of the family items and her clothes and personal items for when she needs them. But in regards to furniture and other stuff we are not keeping - can we sell them? It feels funny to do so. Yes, we are her DPOA in all regards. Thanks.

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Yes you can sell, but if you find someone or knows someone who actually needs them, give them, donate them. Downsize, whatever is easiest for you. Mom and aunt (dad's sister) I had to move 2 around the sametime. Sorry, I gave to whoever needed them.... This is really hard. Very hard. Do what feels right to you.
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Thanks everyone. She will not be needing the stuff and we were going to put the money all towards her expenses. This is a great community and it does help so much to get other's opinions. We did think about storing it, but then wondered why.
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When we moved my folks in, we "upgraded" alot of our furniture with some of theirs that was nicer.. they still had familur things and we had nicer things. Then when we sold our old stuff we put the money into thier account. I agree that you might not want to rent a unit if she will not need the stuff in the future.
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If you have her DPOA, you can most certainly sell her things. If you think she'll have to be subsidized by Medicaid, though, keep that money in her account. Medicaid does a very thorough audit before covering NH costs, and all assets have to be accounted for.
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I had to look up AFH (Adult Family Home in case others are wondering). Personally, I'd sell mom's things that you know she'll never be able to use it again and use that money for her care or put it into savings. I wouldn't spend more money on storing it if you're certain she'll be staying where she is and no one else in the family wants or needs her furniture.

You've done the best you can for your mom, now you need to do what you can to take care of your own family and finances.
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What about storing the furniture in one of those off-site storage places for the time being? I understand these facilities aren't that expensive.

I know when the time comes for my parents to go into assistant living, they can't take their whole household with them.... I know my Mom will want me to have their bedroom set, dining room set, kitchen table, etc. and as lovely as those pieces are, I would need to double the size of my home :P And at my age, if I move it will into a retirement village, into a smaller more manageable home.
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