My LO, my cousin, has Vascular Dementia mixed with Alzheimers. She's 63 and in a Secure Memory Unit. She has all the symptoms of Stage 6 on the Alzheimer's chart. She's now in a wheelchair. She does recognize me. She recalls my brothers, but thinks they are kids. (They are 52 and 42 years of age.) She needs extensive assistance with all areas except feeding herself.
She still has good oral skills and that is encouraging. I made a comment around the director of the Memory Care Unit that I was hoping for at least a couple more years of her keeping the status quo. She didn't say anything, but the look on her face was odd. I instantly got the feeling that my appreciation of her condition and progression was off. So, I now have to prepare myself for the day that she won't know who I am when I walk into the place or meet her for her doctor appointments. Do I just hug her and introduce myself?
Do they know if the person just feels the love and so you just keep giving in that way?
It doesn't appear that many of the people with no memory of their loved ones get many visitors. Do the families just stop going to visit once they have no idea who they are? I can imagine it is a tough thing to do.