Follow
Share

Help!

If Mom has her mental facilities, then the POA is not in effect. Only if Mom can no longer make informed decisions does the POA take effect. And according to some posts on this forum, some states need a doctor confirming there is a need for a POA for it to be effective.

So, if Mom wants to see you and sister refuses, that is like keeping Mom in a prison. I would call APS and ask for a well visit. Ask that they talk to Mom privately without sister being present.
Helpful Answer (1)
Reply to JoAnn29
Report

Check with your state, laws are going into effect all over the country to stop this kind of nonsense. It isolates the one person that needs loving contacts.

Call an attorney or your local nonemergency police and find out if your city is one that has changed the law to protect people's rights.

Let us know!
Helpful Answer (1)
Reply to Isthisrealyreal
Report

Is there an office of the aging or elder care program you can contact to see if they can help? Even getting some guidance from them may help.
Helpful Answer (1)
Reply to Lorraine11
Report

Were you on good terms with her before this, or has she been unwilling for you to visit in the past? Caring for her mother doesn't make her house or her phone publicly available. Have you had a difficult sibling relationship with her mother, potentially upsetting? This situation probably hasn't arisen out of nowhere. Perhaps asking for some way that you can get information, not involving a home visit or personal contact, might be a good idea.
Helpful Answer (1)
Reply to MargaretMcKen
Report

Yes, she can. She doesn't have to let anyone in her house and she can ignore phone calls if she wants to. She's not doing these things as POA as POA doesn't give that kind of authority so her POA has nothing to do with it. She's isolating her mother for her own reasons.

Maybe someone can email the daughter and try to get in touch that way.
Helpful Answer (1)
Reply to Eyerishlass
Report
anonymous821074 Dec 3, 2018
I am in this same situation but my sister took it further by lying to police and getting a restraining order against me. She moved mother to her house against her will. I offered to live with mom so she could remain living at home with my care. Found out she had made sister POA. How can I get to see my mother? She is 95 years old and wants to see me, my daughter, and her 4 children who were all an everyday part of her life. She now lives over 3 hours away. She has a cell phone but I think my sister has set it so my calls don't go through. I love and miss my mom terribly and this is so unfair. Can I somehow petition the court for visitation rights for my mother?
(0)
Report
Subscribe to
Our Newsletter