My father is 78 and until December, lived alone in his own house. In February, 2019 he went to a rehab facility after a 2 week hospital stay. He did do rehab, but his progress peaked and Medicare stopped at the end of March. He’s remained in the rehab room as private pay ever since. (We’re trying to figure out where he’s going to live - as he cannot go back home anymore due mostly to physical limitations). Dad has been on a horrendous medical spiral for the past 9 months and it’s taken it’s toll on him not just physically but mentally as well. He has suffered anxiety, depression, delusions, and just about every coping skill I can think of. Besides that, he’s sort of eccentric and odd and always has been. Everyone at the rehab thinks he has dementia but he has not been diagnosed by a neurologist or has had a brain scan or MRI in 6 years (6 years ago he had back surgery and after falling into a depression from having to use a cane, I asked for an MRI of the brain to be sure dad didn’t have the beginning signs of dementia. At that time, the neurologist said no dementia). I am his only child and I am the POA.
Over the past 4 or 5 months, I noticed that my father says he works at the rehab (and gets paid). I believe in honesty and my father doesn’t show signs of any other delusions most of the time, so I very calmly try to explain that whatever he does is voluntary just because he’s that type of person, but he does not work there. Recently, I found a folder in my father’s room with about 8 essays inside (needing to be graded) as well as a rubric to record the grades. If you haven’t guessed, dad was a teacher in his previous career. Problem #1 - I was not consulted about using using this “being part of their world” tactic (and again.... I am trying to be honest with dad when I tell him that he doesn’t work there). Problem #2 - the “work” inside the folder are 3 year old college essays from one of the employees at the rehab. SHES AN EMPLOYEE - NOT A STUDENT! Problem #3, the entire activity is fake and a lie no matter which way I look at it. As a daughter and someone who visits dad every day, I feel so defeated because I have tried to be so up front with him about things.... if the facility would have asked me if this was ok, I would have said no. But they never asked. What gives them the right to feed into these delusions (or even encourage them) and give my dad busy work to keep him in his room and out of their hair? It’s not like he’s suffering from anxiety now..... they are just building and reinforcing a delusion. Is this something that can be reported? I'm so upset by this