Can surviving spouses of veterans get any financial aid in assisted living homes or nursing homes?

I believe so.

Aides and Attendance can only be gotten if the Vet was in the military during a war. It can't be gotten if ur on Medicaid. It is not easy to get especially if you don't have the paperwork needed. I thought my Mom was a shoe in but got denied. Since by that time Mom was almost on Medicaid, I chose not to go on with it.

You need to call the VA to see what you may be entitled to. In the military the spouses aren't allowed benefits. Husband was in the Military not you. A friend had to work until she was 65 for healthcare and could collect Medicare. Her husband was able to use a VA hospital she wasn't.