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Has been trying to get a trust set up for his two kids, they have been angry at him since their mother divorced him 40 years ago, he then married someone they hated and she divorced him 2011. I have been a ranch neighbor always and have worked for him (and second wife) for over 30 years. Nasty divorce (both) last one worse as kids were pushing for it, then still continued being upset after his divorce, daughter in law always yells at him when she comes around and has been told by his primary not to come around but still does. None of them visit very often, only when they want something. Text book, Abandoned Parents: The Devil's Dilemma cause #2 Third party interveners. I have seen him go thru severe stress since 2011 and his body is breaking down, just think this has all precipitated cognitive decline? Also, the dementia? He is 85.

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Won't help that is for sure, yet, it didn't create the issue, can magnify it tho.
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Stress is not likely to CAUSE dementia, but it certainly can make it worse. Seems that there have not been any really who have lasted in this gentleman's life, which means that this is not all likely to be one sided. He may want to consider leaving his ranch to his favorite charity; I sure would. My brother has a dx of likely early state Lewy's and can tell you that any stress makes him have more symptoms. He has always reacted badly to loss of control of any kind, and stress, but it is honestly dramatic now. Again, don't think it causes it, however. 2011 to 2019 you have likely seen, or subconsciously ignored some changes coming.
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Cass1949 Jul 22, 2019
The ranch has been gifted over to his two kids,2017. (part of the trust work) Yes, I would have left it to a charity but he has been trying to reach a somewhat relationship with his kids and thought that would happen (NOT). He has had absent mindedness forever, so has been hard to tell if he is just lacking in that area, (this is where I question the dementia). Also, has always been dramatic (I have always ignored as an employee and gone about doing my work) so it is difficult to tell as one day he is okay and the next he becomes dramatic, usually after some drama from the kids. Then comes the decline, not wanting to eat and sleeping a lot which has started recently. (this is also where I wonder if this is dementia as this just started). Has been having kids drama for 40 years also has never been able to get along with the daughter in law (but I have to say she is difficult). He states, at his age he just does not want to tolerate her behavior anymore and wants his son to leave her home. (she drinks a lot and becomes mean).
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I didn't answer ur question, no stress does not have anything to do with cognitive decline. I really haven't heard stress used with Dementia. Anxiety, yes.

Stress can cause forgetfulness. It can make you sick. But is not a precursor to Dementia.
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Cass, I really believe that stress can mess with one's brain and will bring on illnesses. For me, stress caused cancer because there were no other markers.

And I can see what stress is doing for my sig other with his family issues. He's become more of an absent minded professor than ever before :P
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If he has been diagnosed with Dementia, he cannot set up a Trust. He doesn't have the cognitive ability to do so. Plus, if he needs Medicaid at any point within five years, that Trust will revert back to him for his care.

There are different Dementias. Some people decline faster than others. Yes, there are good days and bad. Sleeping a lot is part of it too. The brain is literally dying. Bit by bit. The ability to reason goes first, I think. Being able to process what is being said takes longer. Short term goes. Comprehending. There comes a time they can't be alone.

Your a good friend. After taking care of Mom 24/7 for a couple of years, other than my husband, I would not volunteer to care for anyone else.
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Cass1949 Jul 22, 2019
Both of our families have been very close thru all these years, he is like a family member. He did set up a trust a few years ago, had a dr. check him before he signed anything and the dr. stated he did not have dementia at the time of signing. Attorneys made sure of all that. He will not need Medicaid.

Thanks for the explanation of the different dementias, that is so hard to understand.
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Stress can cause cognitive impairment even in those lacking dementia so it makes sense that it could aggravate an active case of dementia. If you search online there are a lot of articles about the affect of stress on our cognitive abilites.
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Cass1949 Jul 22, 2019
Thanks, I will check for some of those articles online. I see the decline immediately after a stressful day.
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